How to Break Out of a Sexual Routine With Your Partner

In long-term relationships, sex often becomes a routine. While this isn't necessarily a bad thing—it can provide a sense of comfort and stability—it can also limit the potential of your sexual life. Routine sets in because we stop paying close attention to the details. When you follow the same time, the same order of events, and expect the same outcome, your body learns the pattern and the element of surprise disappears. Sex then becomes something you do on autopilot rather than an experience you are fully present for. To break the pattern, you do not need to make drastic changes; you only need to be deliberate. Try a different time of day, change your environment, or alter the sequence of your intimacy. A body that experiences something new wakes up and becomes more engaged. Routine is fine, but it is not the ceiling of what you are capable of. The only thing standing between you and a more exciting sex life is the willingness to change one small thing tonight.