How Knowing Your Own Body Leads to Better Sex

We often expect our partners to know our bodies better than we know them ourselves, and then we feel disappointed when they fail to meet those unspoken expectations. This disappointment is usually misplaced. If you do not understand what you like, you cannot guide someone else to provide it. You might lie there hoping your partner guesses correctly, only to feel resentment when they don't. That resentment is unfair because you have not provided them with a clear map of what you need. Take the time to get to know your own body first. This is not just a metaphor; spend time alone to learn what feels good and what does not, without the pressure to perform for anyone else. A woman who understands her own body walks into a relationship with a clear vocabulary for her desires, whereas a woman who does not often relies on hope and luck. Your pleasure is your responsibility before it is anyone else's. Once you identify what you enjoy, you can share that map with your partner. Sex improves the moment you stop expecting your partner to read your mind and start giving them clear, helpful direction.